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Today is a hot day thus a hot topic is what we will discuss. It is not only hot but forbidden in some countries as well. Sex is something many do not talk openly about, even if they do, it would not be out in the open but for the most part with those whom you trust. There is nothing wrong about sex, its raw energy and raw is the purest form of everything. Let’s be honest, we all are homo sapiens. Even though we can controll our animal insticts and our emotional state is more developed than the one of the first people on earth we still can have fantasies or fetishes that are considered unwelcomed and even sinnister.
Marriage or a romantic relationship is a union between the people involved. In most cases it’s two people although monogony is practiced in some places too. Nevertheless of the status or quantity of your relationships, how your express yourself sexually may be a significant factor for your sexuality and intimate satisfaction.
As a kid and even teenager I used to be very much grossed by anything that could indicate intimacy. As I’ve become mature and ready to understand the way I feel, I’ve developed a different approach to sex and intimacy. My very first sexual experience taught me that sex is not about pleasure as much as it’s not about making babies. Sex is a way of expression. As much as the term “fucking” is about intense feelings of lust, “love-making” is about becoming one. None of the expressions are wrong nor right. Yet, the way we express ourselves in our sexual relationships has an effect on our satisfaction both physical and emotional. In other terms, while sex is just sex for you, some individuals find a deeper sense in the sexual expression. That’s where the term “sexual compatibility” comes to play an importance.
Depending on how we grew up and what kind of events had impact on our sexuality and development of personality, we will want different things. As we interact with our sexual partners, we learn to give and receive. The more open-minded you are to changes, the wilder fantasies you get to experience. While one person is comfortable in their body and is eager for more, other person can be quite insecure and thus not feel comfortable with experiments their partner is eager to take a part in. As much as we love our partner we often try to forget our needs or settle for less than what we need, in the end feeling miserable. On the other side those that couldn’t communicate their way to their partner and feel that they cannot compromise on their needs, end up indulging in extra-marital affairs and cheating.
In case your emotional satisfaction overtakes the need to be sexually active, discuss with your partner to come up with a solution that can make you both feel fulfilled in the relationship. A marriage will always have it’s ups and downs. Usually a woman becoming a wife is expected to take the duties of a house keeper which could affect the womans self-esteem and thus even her libido. A woman feeling unsexy is a woman feeling undesirable. A partner being your equal on the other hand will result in a positive progress and well established communication keeping you both alive and happy about your sexual expression.
It’s very understandable that with marriage and children involved things may have changed for many of you. Keeping your conjugal happiness alive means listening to the needs of your partner and creating a routine which works for the both of you. Whether you like vanilla or spicy – you can still mix the flavours in a way that will keep the sparks of your love and desire for each other alive. Romance does not need to be expensive. The way you speak, the way you smell, the way you touch can take your partner to a world where there is only the two of you against the world.
In conclusion, what others say does not matter. If you like role playing and your partner is all in, do it. Love and sex does not have boundaries. It’s like painting a picture. It can get dirty but does not have to. If you are sensual and love food, don’t hesitate and make your lover your favourite dish by smearing him/her with jams, chocolate, ice cream. You can always extend the play and teleport to the shower together.
Hope you had a good read!