[+18] Let’s talk taboo ! How sexual expression affects our conjugal happiness ?

Good morning & Good evening!

Today is a hot day thus a hot topic is what we will discuss. It is not only hot but forbidden in some countries as well. Sex is something many do not talk openly about, even if they do, it would not be out in the open but for the most part with those whom you trust. There is nothing wrong about sex, its raw energy and raw is the purest form of everything. Let’s be honest, we all are homo sapiens. Even though we can controll our animal insticts and our emotional state is more developed than the one of the first people on earth we still can have fantasies or fetishes that are considered unwelcomed and even sinnister.

Marriage or a romantic relationship is a union between the people involved. In most cases it’s two people although monogony is practiced in some places too. Nevertheless of the status or quantity of your relationships, how your express yourself sexually may be a significant factor for your sexuality and intimate satisfaction.

As a kid and even teenager I used to be very much grossed by anything that could indicate intimacy. As I’ve become mature and ready to understand the way I feel, I’ve developed a different approach to sex and intimacy. My very first sexual experience taught me that sex is not about pleasure as much as it’s not about making babies. Sex is a way of expression. As much as the term “fucking” is about intense feelings of lust, “love-making” is about becoming one. None of the expressions are wrong nor right. Yet, the way we express ourselves in our sexual relationships has an effect on our satisfaction both physical and emotional. In other terms, while sex is just sex for you, some individuals find a deeper sense in the sexual expression. That’s where the term “sexual compatibility” comes to play an importance.

Depending on how we grew up and what kind of events had impact on our sexuality and development of personality, we will want different things. As we interact with our sexual partners, we learn to give and receive. The more open-minded you are to changes, the wilder fantasies you get to experience. While one person is comfortable in their body and is eager for more, other person can be quite insecure and thus not feel comfortable with experiments their partner is eager to take a part in. As much as we love our partner we often try to forget our needs or settle for less than what we need, in the end feeling miserable. On the other side those that couldn’t communicate their way to their partner and feel that they cannot compromise on their needs, end up indulging in extra-marital affairs and cheating.

In case your emotional satisfaction overtakes the need to be sexually active, discuss with your partner to come up with a solution that can make you both feel fulfilled in the relationship. A marriage will always have it’s ups and downs. Usually a woman becoming a wife is expected to take the duties of a house keeper which could affect the womans self-esteem and thus even her libido. A woman feeling unsexy is a woman feeling undesirable. A partner being your equal on the other hand will result in a positive progress and well established communication keeping you both alive and happy about your sexual expression.

It’s very understandable that with marriage and children involved things may have changed for many of you. Keeping your conjugal happiness alive means listening to the needs of your partner and creating a routine which works for the both of you. Whether you like vanilla or spicy – you can still mix the flavours in a way that will keep the sparks of your love and desire for each other alive. Romance does not need to be expensive. The way you speak, the way you smell, the way you touch can take your partner to a world where there is only the two of you against the world.

In conclusion, what others say does not matter. If you like role playing and your partner is all in, do it. Love and sex does not have boundaries. It’s like painting a picture. It can get dirty but does not have to. If you are sensual and love food, don’t hesitate and make your lover your favourite dish by smearing him/her with jams, chocolate, ice cream. You can always extend the play and teleport to the shower together.

Hope you had a good read!

See ya❣️

Truth has the power to hurt one’s eyes

Good morning my dear readers!

Here I am a little upset again. This time I can more than sure blame it on my period. It has the way to turn me into a cry baby instead of a lion. But that’s not what I want to share with you all. Let’s talk about stating some facts. There will be always people or more likely poisonous snakes that will hide behind their innocent face. I am calling such people “chameleons” because they change color and camouflage themselves for protection. Such people often are arrogant and lack of self-esteem so they feed on others. When their life turns colorful they tend to forget all their sins.

Instead of nagging on and on about all the people in my life that have mobster tendencies let me talk about what is right and what is wrong. As you know lies has short legs. Sooner or later people that has to know the truth will know. I am a bit more mature than in the past and will not resort to violence or blackmailing of any kind. I don’t have jealousy issues as I prefer to be on healthy terms with people. It can become quite awkward if you meet someone from your past on the street and you did not treat them right. In my case I don’t have to worry. I’ve only cut relations with people that were abusing their position. But the reality is cruel. The more you try to cut relation with people, the more they want to be in your life and make sure you know that you don’t deserve to be happy if they are not happy. And this specific case I am going to present to you.

Not so long ago I’ve shared with you that my ex husband is getting married. I am truly happy for him. But I wish he had been more mature one year ago as he acts like he is today. Yesterday I’ve confronted him about his behavior when I’ve just started to get to know Ahad. There was a day that he took my phone and throw it on the ground because he did not like that I talked to Ahad. That time we were just talking for two days and we were just on the stage of being friendly with each other. Another day he started calling me names when I was on call with Ahad and asked Ahad if he really wants to be with someone like me, then insulting me while I was on the call. Ahads was shocked. He couldn’t believe that someone that is a father acts this way towards the woman that gived birth to his kids. He constantly blackmailed me saying that if Ahad comes here then he cannot live or even meet our kids. He has been a jerk even after I married Ahad, trying to order me around until his parents arrange this marriage for him. I know he will not change, no matter how much I wish he could be happy. I think he simply enjoys irregularities in his life. But back to the story….

Since he started talking to the girl he will marry, he constantly locks himself in different rooms, if I come close he makes his phone in silence mode or cuts the call. Believe me, I will never attack anyone if they have not done anything wrong to me. When I am done, I am done. I did not divorce my ex to teach him any lesson. I did because he wasn’t happy with me nor was I happy with him. His behavior these days awakens a lot of suspicion and yes, he earned my mistrust. I am more than sure that he is doing something that will only bite his butt later on. Women know what they want. Many of them do. He won’t be able to keep secrets forever. I just hope he will not put himself in an embarrassing situation because the next three years ahead look very promising for me but not for him. He is cursed to have argues whenever he marries in the 6th or 8th month of the marriage, with the Saturn in 12th house in his Navamsha and the yearly horoscope of his for 2023 shows Muntha in 7th house. Wishing him a lot of strength because I will not give up on my own happiness that easily with Muntha in 3rd house of the yearly horoscope for 2023!

By now you may ask…where is the truth that hurts the eyes?

Well my dear readers… it’s crystal clear psychology and a lot of reactions. Until next! ❤️

Equality in the world of prejudice

Hello to you my dear readers! This Friday morning could have been better but as there are clouds outside of my window and a fog in my mind right now I do feel kind of sad. I’ve wanted to create a space where people could find answers to their problems but today I must solve mine own.

Yesterday when I was on my way back home after work I’ve opened my phone and I’ve got a notification. I was too much wasted to open it right away so I’ve waited until I reached home. I still had to pick up my kids from preschool. Once I got home and did all the rutines of feeding my kids a dinner and helping them to wash up and so on, I lay down on the bed while talking to Ahad and checked the notification I’ve got on Kirva. I was truly devastated when I saw that half of the rent money was not paid. I fast checked my bank account bill and my half was sent in on time.

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I never suspected that my ex would put me in this situation. After all he is the one with money ALWAYS, while I am the loser that need to take things on installment to get by. But this time it seems he got overconfident and misjudged his financial situation. Nevertheless, the problem is that the bill is on me and I am seem to live in a world filled with prejudice and no equality. While I have all the qualification due to my studies and my wide working experience, my ex has no education and plenty of references because he put his career always above kids (and me while we were still together). The question is, why do I need to be treated like a disease just because I have kids while he climbs the ladder because he sacrifice his children along the way ?Why?!

Right now I need to work in kindergarden, do the job I hate so much. I don’t hate it because of the kids but more because of the boredom and unjust treatment I have to experience. Sitting long hours outside, walking in circles as if I was an eagle and no one even tries to remember my name correctly. They make either their own version of my name or just call me “temp” which is way too disrespectful. On top top of that Austin got some allergy reaction and I need to book appointment at the doctor because he could have pollen allergy or the same disease as my mother has which is freaking me out. If I knew that my kids would suffer because of my DNA I would never give birth to any of them.

Nevertheless, today I need to figure out a way to make a living in a way in which I can develop as a person and still earn good. This part is quite a hard part when people do not believe in your qualifications because you became a mom early in life or because you are bigger than average people. There seems to be so much prejudice everywhere. Why do we fight for equality when people already made their judgement even before seeing anyone work ?

My friends, I wish you an awesome weekend! And do not worry too much, my writing may be affected by my emotions right now but I am the moon in the darkness, I will always find my way to become a sun once again.

See you !